Taking extended time to think especially on important topics is certainly a sign of a positive personality. But when extended thinking pattern gets restricted to limited and non-acceptable outcomes, shows no decisive progress, and continuously revolve around meaningless priorities that’s when it takes the form of overthinking.
It is one of the biggest hurdles on a leader’s path. But mastering it will make you dominate your field.
It steals you of your present enjoyable moments completely and permanently either it binds you to the unfulfilled desires from the past events (that cannot be changed) or throws you to uncertain worries of the future (where you’ve no control).
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Overthinking is widespread, one out of four people at least once in their life will suffer from this problem.
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WHAT is the main cause of overthinking?
The people who are afraid of taking decisions or not ready to accept the inevitable are the ones who suffer because of their overthinking.
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They believe, only if, they buy more time in thinking they can eventually find better solutions thus can avoid unfavorable outcomes, altogether. But in reality, these delays cause them more problems – it breaks their confidence, loses good opportunities due to poor decision-making habits, and cuts them off from reality.
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SO WHAT IS THE SOLUTION?
The first and foremost change to bring is acceptance. Overthinking is nothing but chronic symptoms of denial.
Overthinking is an intelligent person’s attempt of ignoring reality.
People, in general, want to distant themselves from challenging situations – not because they cannot deal with them but they constantly look for smart ways to avoid those challenges through better solutions that might come from thinking (overthinking).
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Here are few tips:
- Instead of resisting the inevitable, learn to focus on gaining strength to deal with reality.
- Take decisions with available parameters and move on. Revisit again if more options are available.
- Trust your intelligence to avoid meaningless traps “bad outcome”
- Use time deadlines as a powerful way to make timely decisions
- No matter what, there is no way to predict or create a perfect future so just focus on your top priority and be happy with it.
- Finally, replace your fears with possibility thinking.
- Instead of going for perfection go with incremental improvements in decision making.