Strong Headed People (SHP) are known for their determination. Without a doubt, these attributes are required for achieving great things in life. But when this focus becomes unrealistic then it creates problems for self and also for others.
Dealing with SHP is not easy. Here are a few things to know about them.
1. In spite of having access to more relevant information, SHP, by nature are not very flexible to change their opinions because they always think they are right and it is others who have to change, not them.
They, at times, carry an inflated version of their own self-image; where they consider themselves better than others in all aspects of life, and thus they completely refuse to take any inputs from others.
Most of the time they find themselves alone as they don’t allow others to penetrate and provide them any help.
Dealing with SHP is the same as how you deal with rash drivers on the road. You must take full responsibility for your well-being by parking your car on the side and not at all coming closer to them. The success mantra here is to control yourself not confront with them.
Here are a few tips that might help you deal with SHP people
a. As much as possible avoid interacting with them, if not, at least minimize it. Because of their predisposition towards things they find it difficult to relate with any sensible and real-world inputs.
b. They love to live in their own world. They tend to misunderstand their meaningless stubbornness with determination.
But unfortunately, these SHP become part of your teams, family members, or even life partner. Then it becomes absolutely necessary for us to learn to deal with them.
Here are a few things:
a. SHP never like accepting others’ decisions thus make sure you allow them to take decisions but with your own caveat. Yes, it looks a little demeaning and even artificial but this is how you deal with SHP by giving them extra importance.
b. Acceptance. It helps if we just start accepting the fact quickly that we have got someone who is unwilling to change and move on. No point repenting and wasting time to change their opinion.
It won’t happen. It won’t help anyone. I you don’t accept then each day will become a compromise-making exercise and each act will come across as tolerance.
b. Identify smart ways of navigating without rubbing their egos. Good or bad, today or tomorrow these people will always have problems with how things are happening in their surroundings if they are told about it. Thus make sure they are constantly asked about their opinion rather than pushing on them.
c. Finally, keep yourself in control. In the end, the best gift is to have a cool head over your shoulder. So whenever you take a break, readjust and bounce back.
Empaths like you also need help so vent your frustration with others who can understand your situation.
